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So this weekend Jason brought his new girlfriend (the one he dumped me for, who by now I have no problem hating) over to the house we share. I was standing in my pajamas making coffee in the kitchen when they arrived, and ran & hid in my room for a little while - but his room is just the other side of my bathroom wall. So our other roommate, my best friend for ten years, took me out & we had a nice day at the park & seeing a movie (Music & Lyrics - it was cute, Hugh Grant is aging well).

 

Since then Jason & I have exchanged some e-mails. He thinks it's selfish of me not to consider how they have nowhere to go (they can't go to her place because her ex-fiance that she dumped for Jason lives there) & can't relax & watch movies together. And yet he wants to be friends, he says, because he thinks of me as his best friend & I was everything he wanted except for not enough sex. Which I did try to work on, & we were doing better, but he gave up on us so it doesn't matter. Nothing I did was good enough for him, and I'm better off without him. And apparently he's an ass who expects me to be just fine with him bringing over my replacement & making lattes for her like he used to for me, & doing everything we used to do, here.

 

Last night I was over at my friends place, and I felt all philosophical & accepting & thankful for all the wonderful blessings in my life & ready to move on. Then I got home this morning, and they were here, & I hid downstairs & fell apart & wanted to die. And he's not even worth it!

 

I may end up camping out on friends' couches until the end of June (lease ends) after all. I'll just have to figure out transportation & try to make it up to them for being such a burden.

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He thinks it's selfish of me not to consider how they have nowhere to go (they can't go to her place because her ex-fiance that she dumped for Jason lives there) & can't relax & watch movies together.

 

*sputters* WTF?!? They want to be considerate to her ex but you somehow don't qualify? :hug:

 

You're being the big person there (or as valentina would say, you put on your "big girl panties") so I'll be mad for you. They're the ones being incredibly selfish.

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*sputters* WTF?!? They want to be considerate to her ex but you somehow don't qualify? :hug:

 

You're being the big person there (or as valentina would say, you put on your "big girl panties") so I'll be mad for you. They're the ones being incredibly selfish.

 

I get the impression she doesn't care about her ex's feelings at all (from some sad messages he sent me), but that she doesn't have a tv in her room. They're both terrible people and I wish the idea of karma provided some solace ...

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In my humble opinion, you're not the one who should be looking for somewhere else to stay, he is. That business about not being able to go to her place because her ex is there is garbage! What are you?? Her ex's feelings are more important than yours? Not hardly.

 

He could not be treating you any shittier. And honestly I can't believe that this new woman is even willing to come into your house and act like that. She sounds like a real piece of work too. Good grief.

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In my humble opinion, you're not the one who should be looking for somewhere else to stay, he is. That business about not being able to go to her place because her ex is there is garbage! What are you?? Her ex's feelings are more important than yours? Not hardly.

 

He could not be treating you any shittier. And honestly I can't believe that this new woman is even willing to come into your house and act like that. She sounds like a real piece of work too. Good grief.

 

I can't imagine why she wants to come there either. My stuff is still scattered all around in there because I haven't had anywhere to put it. I think I'll box it up this week or next when they're not around & stuff it somewhere, just so I can make some visible progress. I can't control what he does & he seems unwilling to listen ... All I can really control is my own actions.

 

I don't know. This is all confusing & I can only think one day ahead at a time, and for right now, that day involves sleeping on a couch at my wonderful friend's apartment.

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