Congratulations on getting married soon. Well, there's nothing like mixing good stress (the buildup to the big wedding day) with bad stress (parental divorce dredging up old business). It makes me tired to think about it.

While I'm sure it's difficult not to think about everything that's going on with your mother leaving your father, first and foremost, focus upon enjoying yourself. That sounds incredibly trite, but it's true. Sometimes when you grow up with a really narcissitic parent, you tend to overcompensate in the opposite direction and spend too much energy worrying about and caring for others. This comes from someone who knows what it's like to have a very self-centered parent!!!

And the title of your entry has had David Bowie music playing in my head all day long!

Congratulations on getting married soon. Well, there's nothing like mixing good stress (the buildup to the big wedding day) with bad stress (parental divorce dredging up old business). It makes me tired to think about it.

 

While I'm sure it's difficult not to think about everything that's going on with your mother leaving your father, first and foremost, focus upon enjoying yourself. That sounds incredibly trite, but it's true. Sometimes when you grow up with a really narcissitic parent, you tend to overcompensate in the opposite direction and spend too much energy worrying about and caring for others. This comes from someone who knows what it's like to have a very self-centered parent!!!

 

And the title of your entry has had David Bowie music playing in my head all day long!

Thank you very much for the encouragement. It really does mean a lot. I do have trouble really enjoying myself, though I'm trying to get better. I love my mom to pieces, and so I really want to be strong for her, which makes it difficult to be excited about getting married, too. All this is happening sort of secretively, and it's going to be a whole big ordeal, just not the same sort. This one's going to work. Anyway, really- thank you.

-Cor

I adore your icons, by the way. Oh! And David Bowie isn't bad to have in your head, right?

I adore your icons, by the way. Oh! And David Bowie isn't bad to have in your head, right?

Bowie is often in my head. I loved his videos in the '80's. They were some of the coolest things and he was just so damn fun to look at. At my favorite coffeehouse, one of my favorite employees is a 20-year-old guy who loves Bowie. He likes to announce my entrance into the shop by singing a Bowie song with my name in it the moment I set foot in the place. (My real name isn't valentina, obviously!) Everyone turns and stares. Any day he's there, I leave with some Bowie song stuck in my head!

My icons are mainly those created by that rapscallion in fuschia tights, aka, minilux. She is a talented little devil!